Amazing sex is one of the ultimate mind-body experiences. An amazing yoga practice is the same. Many who practice yoga know the exact experience I am writing about.
The moment in a yoga practice when you can internally feel each physical inhalation and exhalation, sending oxygen and endorphin's to the entire body. That perfect moment when you feel completely content, as if nothing in the world could upset you. When you feel so sexy that you have the confidence of a god(dess). When you have an inner smile, no matter where you are practicing (in your tiny apartment in the city, or in a packed gym) and all physical and material flaws seem to evaporate, leaving you in your most perfect destination.
Those of you who have never practiced yoga, may now be anxiously opening a new tab on Google and searching the closest studio - bravo, that is exactly what I wanted :) Others may recognize these same feelings from one (or hopefully many!) mind-blowing, confidence-boosting sex sessions. One that leaves them feeling positive, emotionally open and like they can conquer the world.
Both practices, involving the body, breath and mind, are seamlessly intertwined. But did you know that your yoga practice can bring you deeper in your sexual practice?
Yoga teaches us how to use the breath. For most, the simple act of breathing is forgotten on a daily basis. The breath is an incredibly powerful and understated tool which gives us energy, endurance, brain fuel and ultimately, life. If regulated, the breath will work to calm the mind and reduce stress. Matching your breath to your partner´s creates your own personal rhythm and syncs your energies, heightening your senses and ultimately bringing you closer to intensifying sex.
The external or physical side of yoga, the Asanas (postures), work to purify and tone our bodies. Contrary to popular belief, Asanas give us much more than a tight booty and flat abs. They improve flexibility, build strength and increase blood flow. The first two are obvious benefits in the bedroom, as we all know how important flexibility and pelvic strength are during sex - there is nothing like ruining a hot and heated moment by pulling a groin! But more agile limbs, easily arched backs and open hips can take us deeper in our lusty Asanas (think Kama Sutra) giving us the ability to get closer and more creative with our partners, which can directly translate to a spicy and fun (anything but boring!) sex life. An increased flow of blood to the brain and body, in particular the reproductive organs, allows for more long lasting and intense orgasms...now lets be honest, who doesn't want that?!
The internal practice of yoga, teaches true mindfulness, living only in the present moment. For many, sex can be ruined by that annoying neighbor blasting DMX, your endless to-do list for the week or your iPhone persistently chirping. First off, these are all very simple things to work around:
Learn to laugh during sex and embrace the gangster style (okay, a few times) after that have a peaceful chat with your neighbor or landlord. No one should be subjected to DMX, ever.
If you are feeling stressed and anxious with a million thoughts on your mind, then write them down. At the start of the week, or each day, make a list of what you need to do, or even a list of what you want to think about - all at a later time. If you find yourself wandering while in the bedroom, come back to the breath, just like in yoga. Focus on each inhalation and exhalation and begin to deepen them. This will help your mind to relax and allow you to physically tune into the incredibly beautiful feeling of a naked body against yours.
And lastly, recognize that your Smart phone isn't really that smart. It may know when to wake you up with an alarm, but it wont know when your partner jumps you in the middle of cooking breakfast and covers you with kisses from head to toe.
Yoga teaches us to open our minds, through self-improvement and self-realization, in order to find and enhance the most positive parts of ourselves. When you begin to live with intention, through the actions you take - the food you eat, the people you spend time with - you will automatically begin to translate this to your partner. You may even decide you deserve a new partner, someone who better understands, respects and treats you with as much kindness as you give.
With self-improvement comes more confidence. Feeling great about yourself, whether it is because of your strong core after mastering Navasana, or because you realize your physical body is perfect the way it is - you will exude your most natural and sexiest glow, and be irresistible to your partner, on the mat, in bed or on the counter top ;)
Take the principals of your yoga practice and use them to effortlessly parallel your personal practice in the bedroom. Allow yourself to surrender completely to your partner and the present moment. Have an open body and mind, while bringing the intention of love and pure pleasure for you both. This will enhance your playful passion and take you to new levels in your relationship.
LAUREN LEE E-RYT 500 is passionate about living with purpose, exploring the world, and empowering others to live as their most authentic, radiant Self. Founder of Raise Your Beat, dedicated teacher and forever student on the path of yoga, she leads transformational workshops, retreats and trainings to awaken the individual and collective consciousness. Read more about her here