Get Loose

Last week I led a seminar in the middle of a hurricane.

After dancing and laughing wildly in the monsoon with a 2-year-old local, I scurried into our little canopied area to teach an empowerment workshop. 

All of my clothes were drenched at this point, there was no use in changing. I didn't have a mirror to see what my face and hair looked like. My tiny tank top was saturated and sticking to my body, my leggings were itchy. My feet were coated in clumpy beach sand and the leaky 'roof' kept dripping on my papers. 

The rain was disrespectfully loud, so I yelled louder. My 17 retreat attendees listened attentively, asked inspired questions, offered passionate answers, and took notes in their soggy journals. They sat in wet chairs, writing on wet tables-- not one person complained. 

Their genuine engagement meant one thing-- I was leading a successful workshop! 

I didn't look fancy (let's be honest, I looked terrifying), I wasn't comfortable by any means, I had ZERO control over the environment... and I knocked it out of the park. 

And SURRENDER was my guiding light. So many things had 'gone wrong' that I had FINALLY given up trying to control everything. 

Fear is the foundation of control. And fear is gripping, stifling, suffocating.

Have you ever been in the flow? Flow is the opposite of fear. It's a state of energized focus where every thought, word, action feels inspired, purposeful and deliberate. Time seems to slow and speed by at the same time, and the act at hand is so thoroughly enjoyable that the participant stays completely in the present. 

I've never been a *flow* public speaker. I usually need notes and I tend to ramble and stutter. 

I've never been a *flow* LIVE-er. I like plans and security, I have a hard time letting go and existing in the moment. 

Yet, in the middle of this hurricane, I LET GO of the fear that stifles me--- and I stood in my Toryness AND KNOCKED IT OUT OF THE PARK. (It was so awesome that I'm going to do it again. Like, all the time.)

Marianne Williamson has a beautiful prayer that says the following:

I release the need to effort or struggle. I relax deeply into things exactly as they are.

What are you fighting? 

You can't flow and fight at the same time.

You can't speak and fear at the same time.

you can't love and fear, you can't teach and fear, you can't give and fear, you can't JOYOUSLY CELEBRATE and the same time.

So, what can you let the rain waters wash away?

Marianne Williamson also says that prayers don't necessarily change the situation -- they change YOU for the situation.

So the next time you are stifling your infinite, immense, beautiful, powerful, MFing GREATNESS by fear-- repeat the following:

I release the need to effort or struggle. I adapt and move through life with a sense of ease and I am eternally supported.

Then release it. And see what can flow through the loosened grip. 

TORY DUBE is a Holistic Nutrition Specialist, Certified Life Coach and Certified Hypnotherapist through Southwest Institute of Healing Arts. She is the founder of Tory Dube Holistic Health (formerly 'Hotchickpea', founded in NYC). Tory writes for several health publications, is a children's book author, hosts international wellness retreats, and works with clients around the world. Follow her here:

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TORY DUBE is a certified Holistic Health and Lifestyle coach in NYC. After overcoming a 12-year stint with crippling anxiety, a people-pleasing addiction and an eating disorder, she's on a mission to free woman and teens from their own heavy food baggage. (Disclaimer, she has a bigger motive -- the less you're obsessing over your thigh-gap, the more you can show up in the world as your unique and perfectly imperfect self).